Back in November,
Tim and I renewed our wedding vows. It
was something I had always wanted to do but we had never had the opportunity
before then. Thankfully, when we asked
our pastor he was able to officiate for us in a really beautiful ceremony. It was just Tim and I in front of our family
and the morning was very special.
I, take you for my lawful *spouse* to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
After
15 years of wedded bliss the marriage vows took on even more meaning- for
better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. Over the years, we have seen days that have
been better and days that have been worse.
We have had times of richer (sort of) and times of poorer. We have experienced sickness (thankfully only
minor illnesses- stomach flus, colds, etc….) and we have experienced health. As we said the words of the vows to each
other the second time around, we really knew how deep and meaningful they were.
Life has been busy since then- crazy
days that are filled to capacity and weeks that leave no time for
relaxing. Tim works his two jobs, often
going from one to the other and not coming home until the sun has set and it is
practically bedtime. Our weekends are
taken up with activities for the kids and we are often found running them in opposite
directions. Tim and I work well
together. We balance our responsibilities
and juggle our commitments and make it all work so everyone gets what they
need. The only thing that sometimes gets
neglected is our time together. At the
end of the day, at the end of the week- everything has been taken care of or attended
to, except sometimes our marriage. We
both understand that this is where we are in life, and that this chapter will
not last forever. We both try to make
time for each other and make the best of the brief moments we do have together
but sometimes it is hard, and many days I pray that God will bless our efforts
and bless our crazy life, and above all- bless our marriage in the midst of it
all.
This morning at Mass we celebrated World
Marriage Day. In the past, on this
special Sunday, we have been given a blessing.
Our church has had all the married couples stand and the priest has
prayed over us all and blessed us all.
Today, for the first time in our life together, the priest announced
that for World Marriage Day all married couples would be invited to stand and renew
their vows. He had us take each other’s
hands and repeat the vows after him all together. It was certainly a different experience than
the first time we said those sacred words to each other, and even very
different than the second time when we had our own ceremony just for us.
This
time, Tim and I had to squeeze past our five kids that sat between us and as we
stood looking into each other’s eyes and reciting the vows our 2 year old came
up and handed me her empty cracker package.
But, it was still just as special, because it was so timely and
so unexpected and the perfect reminder of what we are doing in our life together
and why God has brought us together.
Kari,
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about husbands and wives going in different directions and life being so crazy. Yesterday I reminded Andy we haven't had 'us' time for a while. We then compared calendars and there isn't a single day for the next week where we can find time to do something together. I guess we will just have to go with the flow. At least we are aware of the need to keep close to each other. Andy sends me little text messages of love during the day. Sometimes its the little things that keep us going.
When we renewed our vows (with other couples) I had tears in my eyes. Yes, we have a much better understanding of the meaning of the vows now that we have lived them for so many years.
Such a beautiful post!